What Should I Say or Do?
There is no one right thing to say when someone has experienced the devastating death of an infant. But PFSC Supervisor Janet Winslow and other experts agree that it is first and foremost important to acknowledge the loss. Simply saying “I’m Sorry” can be enough in that moment. Calling the lost baby by name also is incredibly meaningful to parents, she added, as it validates that their child was here and is not forgotten.
Winslow offers other advice to friends and family who want to support those grieving:
- Be helpful by bringing in meals
- Offer to run errands
- Assist in caring for and entertaining older siblings
- Continue to check-in, even weeks and months later
Support When You Need it Most
NorthShore’s Perinatal Family Support Center (PFSC) provides a wide array of services to women and their families who experience challenges related to pregnancy, birth, prematurity or perinatal loss. NorthShore also offers a free, 24-hour crisis “Moms” hotline at 866.364.MOMS (6667). This confidential line is staffed by licensed mental health professionals.